Redefining “IT Girl”: Finding the Version God Created

Becoming the "It Girl": Is it costing you your identity?

The world’s standards of being an “IT Girl” are, on the surface, pretty positive.

Wake up early and start your day off right? Sounds great.

Be ambitious and not lazy? Love that.

Take care of yourself mentally and physically? Absolutely.

Travel the world and wear designer clothing? Who wouldn’t enjoy that?

But here’s the question no one seems to ask:

If we all follow the exact same checklist to become the exact same "IT Girl," what happens to our identity?

What if waking up before the sun isn't how God designed you to operate?

What if being hyper-ambitious, constantly grinding, and obsessing over self-improvement isn’t actually holy hustle—but a distraction?

What if the enemy’s newest trick is simply getting us to focus so much on ourselves that God’s purpose for us quietly slides to the back burner?

I say this because I’ve lived it.

For most of my life, I was a night owl. That was when creativity visited me—when the house was quiet, the world felt still, and my mind came alive. I’d stay up half the night writing, drawing, painting—letting whatever wanted to be born come through. That was my rhythm. That was how God wired me.

But now? Now I sometimes feel inadequate if I’m not up at dawn, leaping out of bed like all the “IT Girl” routines tell me I should. (And if my mom is reading this—yes, she can confirm: I have never, a day in my life, jumped out of bed in the morning.)

I’m not trying to be one of those "Christianese" people who over-spiritualize everything and reject anything trending. That’s not the point. But when you’re sitting with God and He places a question or curiosity on your heart… it’s worth pausing long enough to listen.

Because the truth is:

I have been so hard on myself for not living up to the world’s standards of beauty, success, achievement, and freedom.

It’s like a new kind of rat race—only this time it comes with Instagram filters and matching designer luggage. And if you’re not chasing it? The world says you’re behind. You’re lacking. You’re failing.

I feel like a failure often.

Maybe you do too.

But here’s something God has been showing me:

Maybe I feel like a failure because I’m trying to succeed at being someone I was never created to be.

Maybe the frustration, pressure, and insecurity come from trying to fit into a mold that was never mine to fit into. 

I heard a quote recently that hit me right in the chest:

“You owe it to us all to get on with what you’re good at.” — W.H. Auden

How can we possibly do that if we’re all busy trying to be the exact same version of “Her”?

And then this one:

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” — Carl Jung

So why are we squeezing our God-given uniqueness into a box that everyone else is climbing into too?

The world tells us to become its version of “Her.”

God invites us to become the version He uniquely designed—the one with your wiring, your rhythm, your calling, your quirks, your gifts.

So how do we step back from the world’s “HER” and begin becoming the one God created?

Maybe it starts here:

* By asking God who you actually are.

* By noticing where you feel most alive, not most approved.

* By giving yourself permission to honor your God-designed wiring.

* By choosing purpose over performance.

* By remembering that God never asked you to be “that girl”—He asked you to be His.

The world doesn’t need a million identical “IT Girls.”

It needs the one-of-a-kind person God made you to be.